Swinging can be a fun and sexually satisfying experience. But it’s not for everyone, and you should do some research first.
It’s important to make sure you and your partner are both open-minded and all-in on the idea of swinging before you try it out. Otherwise, it could damage your relationship.
1. Know your boundaries
The first step in understanding your own boundaries is to take a deep breath and talk about them with your partner. Everyone has different sexual kinks, fantasies, and perversions and the more open you are as a couple, the better it will be for both of you.
You should also discuss your expectations. This includes what type of sex you want to have and how many people you are willing to engage with. It’s important to be honest about what you are looking for and to use any past experiences as a guide for your future.
Lastly, you should agree on safer sex precautions that you will use when swinging. This will help reduce the risk of STIs and unintended pregnancies.
2. Have a discussion with your partner
It’s important to talk about your feelings and concerns with your partner before you make the decision to become a swinger. Everyone has their own sexual kinks, fantasies, and perversions, so it’s important to discuss these with your partner so that you can be sure that swinging is a good fit for both of you.
Many people get into swinging because they want to spice things up in their relationship. They may be bored or feel like their partner isn’t taking the relationship seriously enough. Others may find that swinging is a more satisfying sexual experience than monogamy.
If you and your partner both agree to try the swinging lifestyle, it’s essential that you have a thorough discussion about expectations. Otherwise, you could end up with a lot of resentment and disappointment down the road.
3. Be honest
Swinging can provide sexual variety, adventure, and a way to explore sexual fantasies without cheating on your partner. It can also enhance your relationship and bring you closer together as a couple. However, it’s important to be honest about your feelings and expectations with your partner.
If your partner doesn’t feel the same way about group sex, or swapping partners, or voyeurism as you do, it might not be right for you to enter this lifestyle. You’ll need perfect communication and more trust in your partner than you would have in a monogamous relationship to successfully swing. If you’re not willing to be upfront with your partner, it may be better to stay single or avoid swinging altogether. It’s also a good idea to come up with a signal, such as a code word or sign, so you can communicate with each other throughout the experience.
4. Don’t be afraid to turn a couple down
It’s important to remember that the swinging lifestyle is not for everyone. Some people will be turned off by the idea of extra-relational sex and find it too risky. If you bring up the idea of swinging with your partner, make sure to discuss their feelings about it in detail before proceeding.
It is also important to set boundaries with your partner when it comes to swinging. For example, you may want to only engage in group sex or swap partners with other couples. You should also talk about your sexual kinks, fantasies, and perversions so that you can both understand where the lines are drawn.
Swingers often enjoy meeting other couples at clubs, parties, and resorts. However, you can also meet couples in more intimate settings, such as restaurants, coffee shops, and parks.
5. Stay safe
Swingers need to be very clear about their boundaries. This is important for their own safety and the safety of others. Having conversations about sexual kinks, fantasies, and perversions is important to help ensure that swingers are comfortable with each other and have clear expectations for their relationship.
Despite what many people think, swinging is not an affair, but a form of consensual nonmonogamy. It’s a way of exploring different kinks and experiences in the company of a loving partner.
However, it’s not for everyone. There’s a risk of pregnancy and STI transmission, so couples need to use protection and frequent STI testing is a must. This includes using dental dams for oral sex and carrying condoms with them at all times. It’s also a good idea to avoid sharing personal information with swingers, like your home address or work location, and only share it on a need-to-know basis.