A threesome can be a great way to add variety to your sex life. It can also help you feel unique and special.
However, there are some things you should consider before going into a threesome with someone new. This includes choosing the right person and setting boundaries.
Choosing a third person
Choosing the right third partner is one of the most important things you and your partner will do when planning a threesome. It can make or break the experience, so it’s important to be thoughtful and careful about what you decide.
A lot of couples who seek a third partner fall into the trap of picking someone they know. This can be a huge mistake, especially if you’re planning on inviting a stranger into your bedroom.
You should also be careful to avoid including former lovers or friends who you are still emotionally attached to. They can cause hurt feelings and ruin your friendship for good if they don’t work out.
Once you’ve found the right person, it’s time to sit down and talk about your rules for a threesome. This includes which sex acts you’re okay with, like kissing and penetration. It also includes which sex you’d like the third to be involved in, such as oral sex or BDSM play.
Talking about sex
When it comes to sex, there is a wide variety of sexual acts that you can do with your partner. These include foreplay, kissing, cuddling, hugging and penetration.
There are also different kinds of sexual experiences, which can vary depending on the person’s background, beliefs and sexual orientations. This makes talking about sex tricky as it can often make people uncomfortable.
However, talking about sex is not always as taboo as it used to be. More couples are openly discussing their sexuality and exploring it, which has helped to dismantle many of the sexual stigmas that used to be associated with sex.
But that doesn’t mean that you should give up on having sex with your partner just because it hasn’t worked out well in the past. It’s important to talk about your preferences, your fantasies and your boundaries when it comes to threesomes as this will help you feel more comfortable in the future.
Limiting contact with the third person
Threesomes are a common fantasy and can be a great way to spice up your sexual life. The thrill of having someone perform oral sex, use a sex toy, or penetrate you is appealing for many people.
It’s important to set clear boundaries and make sure everyone is comfortable in a threesome. You don’t want to end up in a situation where one person gets jealous of the other and ends things without giving it a chance.
You also don’t want to be forced into something you don’t want to do. If you’re unsure of what the boundaries should be, talk to your partner and decide together.
It’s also helpful to make a safety word in case you need to stop sex for any reason. This will allow your partner to respect your wishes if you feel uncomfortable. This will also help you avoid any embarrassing situations or awkwardness in the future. If you’re not sure how to set these rules, talk to a mental health professional for advice.
Finishing up with your partner
The key to a good threesome is finishing up with your partner shortly after things are over. Otherwise, you can end up leaving the other person feeling unsatisfied and a little bit weird.
You should also make sure that you have all the logistics nailed down before you attempt a threesome. This includes where the threesome will happen, what toys each party is allowed to use, and how you’ll get home once you’re finished.
But before you begin, it’s important to talk to your partner about how they feel about this new experience. They may have a lot of concerns about having another person in the bedroom with them, especially if it’s someone they’re close to.
It’s also a good idea to make sure that you choose a third person who isn’t familiar with your relationship. You don’t want to invite a friend you know well into the sack, or else you’re going to have a lot of trouble getting everyone to agree on boundaries and have a good time.