“When you first meet the person you will spend the rest of your life with, you will know it.”
Whether the love at first sight myth was born out of fairy tales, or was a myth before fairytales ever existed, the logic behind it is beyond faulty. While many couples seem to claim that they knew they had met the one on the first or second date they had, research says that couples feel the same levels of attachment, desire, and interest early in relationships.
This makes a lot of sense. When you meet someone that makes you feel happy and special, it is easy to get excited about the relationship. Your heart feels aflutter, and endorphins take off when you see their smile. Perhaps this is why it is so common for couples that are in love to claim that they knew their partner was the one so early on.
In reality, it’s what people do over time that determines whether or not they are compatible for the long-term. A combination of people’s personalities, communication styles, and flat-out effort, among other things, all play a part in finding long-lasting love.
Fortunately, phone dating can help you discover great information about these things. By talking on the phone and asking questions (not in overwhelming amounts though) you can learn a lot about how the person on the other end of the line solves problems and sees life. You can also share the things that are important to you and hear about the things that are important to your potential partner.
One of the terms that people use for the excitement that comes with a new relationship, and wanting to get to know a new person, is New Relationship Energy (NRE). Once this phase of the relationship has slowed, which is a common occurrence, it is easier to determine whether or not you have found a person that you want to keep in your life forever.
